Where to begin the story? I don’t know because I don’t even know when the story began, or all of the characters, and subplots. I’m still learning it all myself, but the gist of it is that I’m going through a divorce after discovering my spouse was having multiple affairs.
I’d love to share ALL that I know, because it would make an interesting story, on par with a soap opera, or bad Lifetime movie, but it would be kinda trashy of me to do so. Oh, I have the post written, and it was up for a few hours, but I took it down once I was thinking more clearly.
Next week, I’ll be beginning the legal aspect of the divorce. It’s going to be expensive and messy, like divorces usually are. If we both can be reasonable about our shared assets, debts, and property, it can be settled in a matter of months. If we can’t be reasonable then it could drag on for a year or longer.
I’m not vengeful or blood thirsty. Mostly, I’m just in a state of shock at the moment. I learned that there was a second woman yesterday, and they’re still communicating with each other. The opportunity to look through his text messages happened, and I about passed out reading them. He not only has been having multiple affairs but spending thousands upon thousands of dollars on other women. I didn’t know there was so much money missing since we’ve never had a shared bank account.
The only reason he got caught was because one of the women he was spending so lavishly on discovered he was also doing so for another woman. She threatened him to either hand over some more money, or she was going to contact me. Mind you, I had no idea any of this was going on, though I had suspicions.
He sent a text to me while I was at work saying that I needed to call him right away. Apparently, some crazy co-worker of his was making up stories, and if he didn’t give her so much money by 5pm that day she was going to contact me and tell me lies. Since that moment, my whole life changed.
Last night, I felt like falling over while at work. It’s been exhausting mentally to learn all of this. Luckily, my family and friends are being very supportive, though they’re in a state of shock too.
Well, what can I say?
It is what it is. It’s going to feel strange being single again. I can’t even wrap my mind around it just yet. We’ve been married almost 26 years, so it’s going to take some time to adjust to a totally different mindset.
If there was ever a year I wanted to press the fast-forward button on, it’s this one. Lawyers, courtrooms, maybe even having to find another house, and many more changes await me. I’ll just take it one day at a time. In the end, I’ll be okay, but right now, I’m not.